Comments on: Falling http://enlightenedink.com/blog/2010/03/03/falling/ Mon, 06 Feb 2012 03:54:55 -0800 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1 By: Bernadette http://enlightenedink.com/blog/2010/03/03/falling/comment-page-1/#comment-1425 Bernadette Thu, 03 Mar 2011 22:09:17 +0000 http://enlightenedink.com/blog/?p=966#comment-1425 Revisiting the day. And so grateful for "the fall." Today, I posted our "Kicking the Can: A Collaboration" and found myself smiling. http://enlightenedink.com/blog/2011/03/03/kicking-the-can-a-collaboration/ What would Bernadette THEN think about this wild ride now? Breadcrumbs from the future girl! Do the work. You guys are going to make it! :) Revisiting the day. And so grateful for “the fall.”

Today, I posted our “Kicking the Can: A Collaboration” and found myself smiling. http://enlightenedink.com/blog/2011/03/03/kicking-the-can-a-collaboration/

What would Bernadette THEN think about this wild ride now? Breadcrumbs from the future girl! Do the work. You guys are going to make it! :)

]]> By: Bernadette http://enlightenedink.com/blog/2010/03/03/falling/comment-page-1/#comment-1244 Bernadette Sat, 21 Aug 2010 14:11:20 +0000 http://enlightenedink.com/blog/?p=966#comment-1244 So ... I "liked" myself. How cool of Facebook to encourage me to do that! :) So … I “liked” myself. How cool of Facebook to encourage me to do that! :)

]]> By: Bernadette http://enlightenedink.com/blog/2010/03/03/falling/comment-page-1/#comment-741 Bernadette Tue, 09 Mar 2010 00:53:25 +0000 http://enlightenedink.com/blog/?p=966#comment-741 Lots of good food for thought, Kerry. I think when we take those vows we can't REALLY get it ... that apparently comes later! Lots of good food for thought, Kerry. I think when we take those vows we can’t REALLY get it … that apparently comes later!

]]> By: Bernadette http://enlightenedink.com/blog/2010/03/03/falling/comment-page-1/#comment-740 Bernadette Tue, 09 Mar 2010 00:51:52 +0000 http://enlightenedink.com/blog/?p=966#comment-740 You are VERY welcome. Glad you're off the ledge and out exploring! You are VERY welcome. Glad you’re off the ledge and out exploring!

]]> By: Bernadette http://enlightenedink.com/blog/2010/03/03/falling/comment-page-1/#comment-739 Bernadette Tue, 09 Mar 2010 00:49:53 +0000 http://enlightenedink.com/blog/?p=966#comment-739 DUH! I see you have linked your site. Check this guy out folks! He's awesome. DUH! I see you have linked your site. Check this guy out folks! He’s awesome.

]]> By: Bernadette http://enlightenedink.com/blog/2010/03/03/falling/comment-page-1/#comment-738 Bernadette Tue, 09 Mar 2010 00:48:19 +0000 http://enlightenedink.com/blog/?p=966#comment-738 Gordon! What a treat to find you here. I love it when you attach your energy of support ... you are so uplifting. Please come back and share your wisdom, (And link your site if you'd like!) I'm just getting warmed up. Though I think I must be crazy for doing this ... I'm huffing and puffing trying to keep up with THAT Bernadette. She was a lot younger :) Gordon! What a treat to find you here. I love it when you attach your energy of support … you are so uplifting. Please come back and share your wisdom, (And link your site if you’d like!) I’m just getting warmed up. Though I think I must be crazy for doing this … I’m huffing and puffing trying to keep up with THAT Bernadette. She was a lot younger :)

]]> By: Gordon McGregor http://enlightenedink.com/blog/2010/03/03/falling/comment-page-1/#comment-732 Gordon McGregor Mon, 08 Mar 2010 14:18:34 +0000 http://enlightenedink.com/blog/?p=966#comment-732 I LOVE the raw and amazing truth of Bernadette and Ray's journey and how it has made me reflect on my life. I have been humbled and yes have had those moments of falling. I also have learned when I am fully in motion with the Universe the fall is softened and the lesson is learned faster. As I journal daily too much is revealed and am happily surprised to find out what "the fall" was to teach me. Thanks for keeping us honest and I love this the fact this book is being "blogged" as there are so many gems in it a regular reminder of some of them is very welcomed. All the best, Gordon I LOVE the raw and amazing truth of Bernadette and Ray’s journey and how it has made me reflect on my life. I have been humbled and yes have had those moments of falling. I also have learned when I am fully in motion with the Universe the fall is softened and the lesson is learned faster. As I journal daily too much is revealed and am happily surprised to find out what “the fall” was to teach me.

Thanks for keeping us honest and I love this the fact this book is being “blogged” as there are so many gems in it a regular reminder of some of them is very welcomed.

All the best,

Gordon

]]> By: Kerry http://enlightenedink.com/blog/2010/03/03/falling/comment-page-1/#comment-715 Kerry Fri, 05 Mar 2010 18:57:53 +0000 http://enlightenedink.com/blog/?p=966#comment-715 I can understand in so many ways why you’re sharing yours and Ray's story. I think though it’s hard in today's society where people feel everything is throw away. Even marriage. I also think that, in my own marriage, I can read what you wrote and relate in some ways … due to other circumstances we faced ... and had that feeling of “Falling” or other times “Tumbling.” (a really good word.) I often think too, doing the work was so very hard … taking the chance to say “What now?” then working through it and communicating what needs to happen to succeed or just live with each other. It’s not easy. Marriages that last for years are never without complications in them. You know too when we take those vows ... do we really get it then?? I know for us we often talk about that. How naive we were back then ... I often say though what saved us is that we were friends before we got married ... we could talk no matter what the situation was. 32 yrs later and due to my health and his … all of that I know has put us on a new level and we are still learning. I often think no one is perfect … nor is a marriage. Because we all have flaws … all of us. It’s funny; I often think it’s like “running with scissors!” Because sometimes he is frustrating as hell and I wonder how do I live with this man! :) Other times I think oh my gosh I am so blessed we stuck it out and are still together. But then I have never worked so hard in my life to hang on to something either. So, it takes a ton of compassion to talk about you and Ray. I think divorce is prevalent and comes up a lot ... You guys came through really hard times and there are lessons to share. Those are the blessing to those who read and share. We all can learn from them. Hugs, Kerry http://iftheresonethingiknow.blogspot.com/ I can understand in so many ways why you’re sharing yours and Ray’s story. I think though it’s hard in today’s society where people feel everything is throw away. Even marriage.

I also think that, in my own marriage, I can read what you wrote and relate in some ways … due to other circumstances we faced … and had that feeling of “Falling” or other times “Tumbling.” (a really good word.)

I often think too, doing the work was so very hard … taking the chance to say “What now?” then working through it and communicating what needs to happen to succeed or just live with each other. It’s not easy. Marriages that last for years are never without complications in them.

You know too when we take those vows … do we really get it then?? I know for us we often talk about that. How naive we were back then … I often say though what saved us is that we were friends before we got married … we could talk no matter what the situation was. 32 yrs later and due to my health and his … all of that I know has put us on a new level and we are still learning. I often think no one is perfect … nor is a marriage. Because we all have flaws … all of us.

It’s funny; I often think it’s like “running with scissors!” Because sometimes he is frustrating as hell and I wonder how do I live with this man! :) Other times I think oh my gosh I am so blessed we stuck it out and are still together. But then I have never worked so hard in my life to hang on to something either.

So, it takes a ton of compassion to talk about you and Ray. I think divorce is prevalent and comes up a lot … You guys came through really hard times and there are lessons to share. Those are the blessing to those who read and share. We all can learn from them.

Hugs, Kerry
http://iftheresonethingiknow.blogspot.com/

]]> By: Gina http://enlightenedink.com/blog/2010/03/03/falling/comment-page-1/#comment-713 Gina Fri, 05 Mar 2010 03:33:18 +0000 http://enlightenedink.com/blog/?p=966#comment-713 Thanks for giving us a place to be vulnerable. It's scary putting this out there and it pains me sometimes to recall... but... When my ex left the relationship, it didn't feel like falling. It felt more like someone pushed me off a cliff! I was so used to controlling everything so that I wouldn't be hurt, so it was instinctive for me to grab the first rock or branch I could and I hung on for dear life. I spent weeks screaming, "help me get back up!" And it took me months to see that no one would save me. I had to save myself. Someone then said to me that if I looked below I might be surprised... and I did. Below me was a ledge only two feet below. I thought letting go meant falling to my death, but there was this ledge. I let the branch bend until I felt my tiptoes hit the ground. I sat there on this ledge crying for days. I wanted to climb back up but every time I tried, I failed. Then someone else asked me to consider trust. I got up from my fetal position on the ledge and started to look for other paths to climb. It took me quite a while, but I started. The paths still hurt my feet sometimes, but I'm doing it. Thanks! Thanks for giving us a place to be vulnerable. It’s scary putting this out there and it pains me sometimes to recall… but… When my ex left the relationship, it didn’t feel like falling. It felt more like someone pushed me off a cliff! I was so used to controlling everything so that I wouldn’t be hurt, so it was instinctive for me to grab the first rock or branch I could and I hung on for dear life. I spent weeks screaming, “help me get back up!” And it took me months to see that no one would save me. I had to save myself. Someone then said to me that if I looked below I might be surprised… and I did. Below me was a ledge only two feet below. I thought letting go meant falling to my death, but there was this ledge. I let the branch bend until I felt my tiptoes hit the ground. I sat there on this ledge crying for days. I wanted to climb back up but every time I tried, I failed. Then someone else asked me to consider trust. I got up from my fetal position on the ledge and started to look for other paths to climb. It took me quite a while, but I started. The paths still hurt my feet sometimes, but I’m doing it. Thanks!

]]> By: Bernadette http://enlightenedink.com/blog/2010/03/03/falling/comment-page-1/#comment-711 Bernadette Thu, 04 Mar 2010 14:00:42 +0000 http://enlightenedink.com/blog/?p=966#comment-711 Okay. I know a lot of folks who read this blog ... but who say they are shy about commenting ... especially being the first! I'm breaking the ice. If you all knew each other the way I know you ... you wouldn't be shy at all! And to those who are "new" to this blog ... WELCOME! You are not here by accident! Okay. I know a lot of folks who read this blog … but who say they are shy about commenting … especially being the first! I’m breaking the ice. If you all knew each other the way I know you … you wouldn’t be shy at all! And to those who are “new” to this blog … WELCOME! You are not here by accident!

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