Gathering grievances is tedious and soul consuming. Past, present or future. AND have you noticed how short-lived their collective pleasure is? No matter how many you manage to gather they NEVER make you feel better for very long. There is no magic number that brings a sustainable relief. AND if you are grievance gathering to get off a guilt hook (like in a relationship) ... well, that never ends well because it never ends. The other 'guilty' party will always accept the challenge to top your grievance with one of theirs. Think about it. AND if you join the trafficker realm (this is when you invite other friends or institutions to join you) you are pretty much assured your (and their) future will look like what you are trying to erase, correct or escape because you just multiplied the lens you are ALL looking through. Here's the thing. We've ALL done it at one time or another. So, what if we get out of the grievance trafficking business and start living. REALLY living a life without grievances. Just think of all the free time and energy we will have for what REALLY feels good!