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I wrestle with a greater awareness of love through the face of loss. And I evolve because I love – not because I loved.
Grief and grace invite me to be part of the equation. To notice the places where I am missing from myself as I am missing him or her – or this and that. To love more deeply and receive more freely. How much grief and grace can a heart hold? A lot. An awful lot if we allow ourselves to evolve and expand through the process. I intend to heal through this grief AND the cancer in my breast. And that means I have to give my ALL to the process. I have to be fully honest, fully present and fully human. (Got that human part down pat.) I told you in my “Life. Death. Breast Cancer.” post that it would get messy here. I also said that if I share anything heavy, it would be to build muscle. So, if grief is a challenge for you in this moment, you are not alone. When our hearts expand, they touch. Here’s to building muscle, together. I welcome your journey with grief here. And if you, too, are working hard for a physical healing in your life while wrestling with an overlapping grief, I would love to hear how you are doing with it. Sharing is Caring. And feel free to subscribe.

Forgive it Forward: Grievance Trafficking

Forgive it Forward Grievance Trafficker Gathering grievances is tedious and soul consuming. Past, present or future. AND have you noticed how short-lived their collective pleasure is? No matter how many you manage to gather they NEVER make you feel better for very long. There is no magic number that brings a sustainable relief. AND if you are grievance gathering to get off a guilt hook (like in a relationship) ... well, that never ends well because it never ends. The other 'guilty' party will always accept the challenge to top your grievance with one of theirs. Think about it. AND if you join the trafficker realm (this is when you invite other friends or institutions to join you) you are pretty much assured your (and their) future will look like what you are trying to erase, correct or escape because you just multiplied the lens you are ALL looking through. Here's the thing. We've ALL done it at one time or another. So, what if we get out of the grievance trafficking business and start living. REALLY living a life without grievances. Just think of all the free time and energy we will have for what REALLY feels good!

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